There are people who love to star-gaze; I love to smile-gaze. I miss my smile, it’s difficult to look back on pictures and see how vibrant my smile was, and how beautiful my teeth were when I smiled. Yesterday I was looking for the picture of Eric and I in Croatia and came across so many pictures of me smiling, some had me smiling as I reminisced and some really made me sad. Knowing Dr. Lettieri was watching the World Cup I text him the picture and told him we were rooting for Croatia. His reply back was “If Italy isn’t there who is watching?” (smarty pants, he’s Italian)
Then he said “Nice photo of you and Eric.”
I text “Thank you, but I miss my smile”
Dr. Lettieri “Sorry”
Me “It’s not your fault”
Dr. Lettieri “I know but I can still feel bad for you”
Me: “I know you do, and I thank you for that”
Dr. Lettieri: (rainbow emoji)
Me: “If I hadn’t lost my smile I’d never appreciate it like I do, and I never would have met you. Things can always be worse.”
Dr. Lettieri: “There are turns in our lives that help to define us, it’s a Navajo belief, Seven Turns. I came across it because of an Allman Brother’s song; Seven Turns. In my studies I came loved the philosophy.”
Then he sent me a link: The Title refers to a Navajo belief that there are seven times in life that you must make a decision that determines your path. Taking a wrong path means you must either backtrack or stay on the road to ruin.
Me: “So did I take a wrong path, somewhere along the way?”
Dr. Lettieri: “You did not take the path, you are making the decisions based on what is brought before you.”
This is the YouTube video Dr. Lettieri sent me
You can see why I love him, he really has a great heart and an old soul. I imagine he see’s so much anguish in his profession as a trauma surgeon. I appreciate his candor with me, but I love his perspective on life because of what he has seen and experienced. In my opinion-there is no trauma surgeon that even comes close to his skill, cutting edge ‘never give up’ style he is always thinking of his patients and what he can do to make life easier for them.
I downloaded that song he recommended, did some research on the Navajo traditions and thought about the philosophy behind the words of the song, today when I got in my car to go home after work it synced from my phone to my car and I played it on repeat the entire drive. It made me smile thinking about Dr. Lettieri and his way of explaining to me my place in life right now has nothing to do with the choices I made, but more about what I am learning while given; and after receiving the trial.
So….why do I think you should smile? Well one reason is because I can’t, so next time you bust out a giggle or two, think of me. Another reason is because we show an exuberant amount of joy when we smile and it may just help someone who needs it.
We have so much to smile about, be happy you are not the one who can’t, you have a choice so smile and don’t ever take it for granted. It is a blessing.
XOXO Monya Williams